Marlboro Man

Posted: January 21, 2013 in Uncategorized
tough men

tough men

Fatherhood is a call which requires a genuine spirit of servanthood. And a successful fatherhood is always a result of a fruitful partnership with the mother of children. This shared responsibility now becomes a missing link among many families. It was observed that one of the ways to cure the inherent narcissistic propensity of every male adult is by becoming a father to a child in the family context.

According to Geek mythology, Narcissus was a very handsome man, perfect in appearance. One day while bending to drink water from a crystal clear pool, he saw himself reflected on the water. He fell in love with the image reflected on the water, off course it was his own image. He became engrossed with that handsome reflection of himself and he refused to eat and died tragically. Fatherhood could emasculates all those malevolent inclination that plagued all men, not just the selected few, but all men. Does it mean, men should abdicate their manhood in order to be liberated from this narcissistic propensity?

There is a spectrum of subjective definitions concerning manhood. Others thought the term as synonymous with masculinity, virility and the stereotype tough guy. For some, manhood connotes the image of dependability, for others that chauvinist macho image, the apathetic, nonchalant, tolerant, free willing, and anything- goes attitude kind of species.

What about the oversexed macho man, siring as many children as possible with different women without having sense of responsibility?  Men are trying to keep that façade of omnipotence, conforming to this culture script carved out by the mass media on its appealing model of manhood. The Marlboro man is the most popular icon being peddled by our stereotype culture. He has the image of dependability, unfazed by any danger of being overrun by hundreds of unruly cattle, running in the prairie. And after having successfully contained the dust- clouding skirmishes of herds, the Marlboro man, and calm as he was, lit up a cigar, confident as ever that nothing can cause a jolt on his solid image of manhood. Am I beginning to believe this massive promotion about manhood as exemplified by the Marlboro man?

I know of a man who showed his ordinariness. He had caused disequilibrium among the façade of patrician nobility plainly exhibited by those existing elites during his days. He wept for compassion over his people. His reputation was maligned to the point of being falsely accused of unimaginable crimes. He bore the pain and shame when he was hanged on that cross between two condemned criminals. His manhood was tested. If toughness was his idea of manhood, he could have use the readily available multitude of angelic forces on their fighting mode. Why this man had abandoned their Mosaic tradition, their lex taliones stance against any form of oppression? Why can’t he emulate the fearless warrior King David who had slaughtered many? Why he did not fight the system by the use of force?

It was a dark day of his soul when he audibly proclaimed before the sneering crowd, his own race and those Gentile centurions: “My God, my God why have you forsaken me?” He did not retaliate, nor showed any signs of vindictiveness when he prayed: “Father, forgive them for they know not what they are doing.”He was completely vulnerable then, a true victim of untold injustice. No wonder many have emulated the courage of this man.

Amazingly, this man had entered his glory not by the use of force. He never repudiated his humanness and his frailty. He was almost tempted to revert to the old ways of massive annihilation of the human race using the flood and the disintegration of the city of Babel. It could be as easy as typing “ESC” so that all will start anew, but this man was committed to complete the job, so that everything could be “save as”. This man never hesitated in giving himself, his life, as a password to unlock the dormant and obsolete running program then. That outdated Wordstar program has long been forgotten by this generation including that tedious memorization of its commands. This man introduced newness, and newness that keeps on evolving and expanding. This man alone can be our perfect prototype and now in his glory, through the Spirit keeps on inviting everyone: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light”

This thesis is still subject for debate depending on what opinion others are keeping. There are women groups that vigorously enforced their bias on this issue of manhood. This two great secondhand books worth reading on the subject of manhood and fatherhood, could be worth sharing:  Fatherless America: Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem by David Blankenhorn, first HarperPerennial edition published 1996; The Secrets Men Keep authored by Stephen Arterburn and published by Thomas Nelson in 2006.

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